I had a niece that was due with her first baby, just a week after Ace was due. Her baby girl was born a couple of days before Ace. Unfortunately, Amelia was still born. When I heard the news I cried and cried. But the fact that she was my niece and I had a healthy baby, makes me feel even horrible. I don't want to share news of Ace and risk hurting the families feelings. I feel even worse when all I can do is complain about being tired or how much pain I was in nursing, or anything really cause I know my niece would have taken the physical pain over the loss of her baby. I know they are happy for me, I just hate it! Ace's birthday will be a yearly reminder of Amelia's death. (See was buried on his birthday). I know my Heavenly Father has a plan for us all. Even little Amelia who had to leave us to soon. I just remind myself daily that all 4 of my beautiful, healthy, striving children are a blessing from god.